Monday, 30 September 2013


Be Kind and Let Her Express Herself
Most times, we men don't allow our wives to fully express their sexual fantasies and fears, when women keeps their emotion and understanding in check, it is certain that they may not be giving us the very best of themselves. So it is needful you do allow her to communicate how she feels about herself to you in doing this she releases her sexual component and her muscles are more relax to enjoy sex and work through orgasm.

Saturday, 28 September 2013

Why Sexuality in Marriage

Sex is an important bonding component in marriage. So even if you feel somewhat separated from your spouse, sex can often be the experience that restores your bond, it  allow  both of you to feel closer, get affection and stimulate a sense of intimacy. The world today offers conflict, pressure, disappointment, rejection, bitterness, performance evaluation of different source in marriage. Sexuality in marriage can be the antidote. To know and be known – physically, emotionally, and spiritually – I call it the healing balm in marriage-1 Corinthians 7:3-6.
 For most men who are the introvert in relationships, sex can help them open up a little. From a biological point of view, sex has a very positive effect on brain chemistry that can make an important contribution to the on-going health of your marriage. Sex primes the pump for intimacy and healing in marriage.
Marriages that don’t maintain their sexual vitality are very much at risk. Plan together to protect and promote your sex life……

Thursday, 26 September 2013

Midnight Echo!!!!!

What Kind of Kiss do you give your spouse when he/she comes back from work?
As I was about to lay down to sleep, it dawned on me that my busy schedule has seriously rubbed me of one of the most vital part of my intimate play with my wife....which is kissing her like i really love to. How often do we rush out to work without giving our spouses nice mouth to mouth kiss.
When your spouse gets home from work have you learned to stop whatever you are doing to greet him/her with a welcome kiss.
Come to think of it, what is really important, your to-do list or a loved spouse?
We just have to  intentionally set aside that time to make our spouses feel loved, important and encouraged after a long day.....hmm mm, that is my thought!!!
Start your day and end your day with this

Wednesday, 25 September 2013

How to Give a Hand Job

For many years, I could confidently say that I was a good lover...well, except when it came to hand jobs. I was downright flummoxed.

Now I can't be the only wife(ref: Hot, Holy and Humorous) who didn't know how to give her husband a great hand job. But it's good to have this in your marital intimacy repertoire for those times when intercourse is off limits due to a period or health restrictions or when you just want some nice foreplay.

So how do you give your husband a great hand job? I have since learned a thing or two. Let's chat.

Lubricant. Don't even bother trying to give a hand job without lots of lubricant. Rubbing your hand over his penis repeatedly won't feel good without moisture. You can use a lubricant that is oil-based (like coconut oil), water-based (like Astroglide or KY), or silicone-based (like Wet Platinum). Find one you both like and start the hand job by applying it liberally to your husband's penis and to your hands. Keep it nearby in case you need more later.

Teasing. Take it slow at first. You can take your time undressing your husband and teasing him with your hands outside his clothes or underwear beforehand. Once he's bare, there are several ways to drive him a little crazy with gentle touching: You can touch or lick the head of his penis, lightly massage his testicles, or use your fingers to softly stroke his penis.

Body position. A hand job can be given from several positions. Your husband can sit in a chair while you kneel; he can lie down, while you straddle-sit on his thighs; you can sit next to each other and reach over to touch him; you can lie in opposite directions with your head in line with his hips; and so on and so on. If you have difficulty in one position, try another. Your respective heights and body comfort will make some positions more pleasant and conducive to arousal than others.

The view. Speaking of which, you may want to consider the view he's getting while you're in that body position. Your husband may respond even more to your touching if he's getting a pleasing visual as well. Most men are aroused by seeing their wife's body, in part or full. While you're giving him the hand job, he may enjoy looking at your breasts, your derriere, or other pretty parts he enjoys. Or perhaps he simply wants to gaze into your eyes. ("How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful! Your eyes are doves." Song of Songs 1:15.)

Hand positions. There are several different ways to position your hands. You can stroke up and down, up only with two hands alternating, twist your hand or hands back and forth around the shaft. You can use your whole hand, your palms only, your fingers, or pinch your finger and thumb together to form a ring (think of the okay sign).

Like sexual positions, some people have named miscellaneous hand job moves, such as "the corkscrew" or "the pancake." But all of them are variations of grip, stroke, and area you touch. There isn't one right hand position for giving a good hand job. As they say, different strokes for different folks. (Now I've ruined that saying for all of you, haven't I?)

Sensitivity. You may be tempted to concentrate on the shaft of the penis, since constantly stroking it can evoke ejaculation. However, the most sensitive part is the head, or glans, of the penis. Be sure to playfully and lovingly touch your husband's head, paying special attention to the frenulum--which appears like a stretch of taut skin running from the inner head of the penis to the shaft. The corona, or rim of the penis head, is also sensitive to touch. For more information on the anatomy of the penis and other male sex organs, see The Marriage Bed's Male Genitals article.

Rhythm. When your husband thrusts inside you, there's a rhythm to it, right? Well, you'll want to maintain a rhythm to your touching. It doesn't have to be consistent throughout; in fact, vary a little. You can start slow, increase the pace, slow again, increase, and so forth. Or just move from slower to faster. But don't stop and start; keep it going.

Climax. Decide how you want to handle ejaculation. Do you two want him to climax with the hand job? Do you want him to penetrate you when he's close? Do you want to maybe add your mouth to the equation and...well, you know? If you want to finish him with the hand job, you'll likely need to increase the pace and pressure as he comes close. You may also want to surround his penis with your whole hand (or two hands) to provide sensation all around for him. Pay attention to his cues: Is he tensing up, asking for more, making noises that indicate growing pleasure? Adjust your position and tension accordingly.

One more thing about climax: While it's incredibly enjoyable to most husbands to have their wife fondle and stroke their penis, it's a little more difficult for some husbands to reach orgasm that way. They may prefer to move to penetration or even to take over some of the rhythm with their own hand. This is not a reflection on how good your hand feels to him. You can talk about your expectations here and decide what's important to you both.

Communication. The best advice for giving your husband a fabulous hand job, however, should come from...your husband. He knows what feels good to his body. Encourage him to tell you what he likes or guide your hand(s). Let him know that you want to learn. I bet that statement alone--"Honey, will you show me how to give you a fabulous hand job?"--would cause plenty of husbands to come to attention.

Asking your husband how you can please him falls under one of the foundational principles to a truly intimate and enjoyable physical relationship in your marriage. The Bible's commands are relevant to every area of our lives, including the marital bedroom. So even though it isn't a scripture that addresses sexuality, consider the attitude we should take toward others from Philippians 2:3-4: "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others."

It's a gift to your spouse to let go of your selfishness, value his pleasure above your own, and look to his interests. The paradox is that spouses report over and over that their own pleasure increases a hundredfold when they ask how they can serve their mate and then pleasure them accordingly.

So if you haven't tried giving your husband a hand job, consider it. Would it be in his interest (and thus yours--after all, you are one flesh)? Have you avoided trying it because you don't know what to do? Could you ask him for a little coaching?

Reference: Hot, Holy and Humorous........

Monday, 23 September 2013


Don't be Selfish, Let Her Finish First

The world we lived in today, seems to have thrown away sacrifice and commitment out of the dictionary. Lot of men today tends to just get their way and move on, not considering their wives and love ones. The media and social entertainers make things worst, i strongly believe that for us to get the best in our sexual relationship with our spouses there is need for us to put our selfish desire and interest aside. Getting your wife to orgasm entitles serious sacrifice and patience.
Stalking the elusive tandem orgasm is an admirable goal, but many women—especially those with sensitive clitorises—respond better to a "ladies-first" strategy. If you rub the clitoris for a long time—during thrusting, for example—it can become too sore or desensitized to respond to manual or oral stimulation later. So satisfy her before intercourse-start the foul play first before intercourse. 
We should always remember that SATISFYING OUR SPOUSES SEXUAL NEED is more of team work not about individualism theory, as it depicts in our contemporary world.


Saturday, 21 September 2013

Weekend Echo-Advise to Wives!!!!!

Dear Wives Never Take these things for Granted:
  1. Never take his ball for granted: His penis is fun to play with but so are his balls. Play around with them, too. See what he likes. He should return the favor when it’s time for him to really take care of you. You’re more than just your vaginal opening, right? He’s more than just his appendage.
  2. Never take everything way too seriously. Laugh a little. Sex is fun — it’s even funny sometimes. Don’t let falling off the bed or an accidental fart ruin the mood. Laugh, then get back to it.

  Never stop asking for what makes you feel good. The first step in experiencing sexual pleasure is to know what pleasures you. Ask for it. A good lover should want to make you come — and be willing to take the time to get you there.

Thursday, 19 September 2013


Learn to Sense Her Orgasm and Follow Her Lead
I have heard a lot of talks as per sex in marriage (ideas and belief); from the Christian Community it is assumed that oral sex is sinful. But I have taken time to search the scriptures and I have not found one bible passage that states how couples should relate as regards to intimacy in their privacy. One thing is sure – marriage bed must not be defiled by infidelity, either with human help (extra-marital relationship) or material relationship-pornography, etc.
So to learn to sense her orgasm, it is necessary for husbands to understand how to ease into oral sex—don't just attack. First kiss her inner thighs and her inner and outer lips, then work your way inside using firm, broad strokes with your tongue. Watch her hips for a clue to the rhythm she likes. Listen to her gasps and moans as you experiment with different techniques.
And watch out for signs that show she's close to climaxing, such as a subtle deepening in the color of her labia caused by increased blood flow. Or rest a hand on her stomach and feel for the muscular contractions that immediately precede her orgasm.
Once you reach your point of no return, you'll climax even if you're interrupted. But your lady could hit the "off" switch if you stop or change moves midway to orgasm. She will love it when you try new things, and it's important to vary your technique, but once you've found a winner, stick with it until she crosses the finish line.