Saturday, 26 October 2013

Connecting with Your Spouse on More than One Level

It is fascinating to know that the best way wives can be sexually fulfilled is when you  understand that she constantly seek out ways of connecting to you-husband in more than one way. You don’t reap your harvest without sowing the seed. You can’t drive a car without filling it up with gas. You can’t eat a meal without first prepping and cooking the food. What makes you think you can enjoy mutually satisfying sex without first preparing and stimulating your partner?
I never want to lay a blanket of judgment over anyone, but—in general—this message is geared more toward husbands. (Wives, you are not off the hook! In our earlier post we have dealt with post how wives can love their husbands better).
Husbands, the first thing you need to know is that your wife is a highly emotionally being who wants you sexually. She really does! You are fully capable of fulfilling her sexual desires. The thing is that she also wants to connect with you emotionally, mentally and physically, which may seem like a lot of work to you. Each of these connections lay the groundwork for what happens in the bedroom. If your wife feels connected to you on each of these levels, your sexual relationship will become a multi-faceted, more meaningful aspect of your marriage. It will take off like a rocket to the sky.

Simply put: The best sex happens long before the clothes come off. For successful play, you have to work all day! Husbands, each day, make a goal to connect with your wife on every level. Here are some ideas:
  • Spiritually: Wake up and pray together for 10 minutes in the morning.
  • Physically: Before she leaves for work, pull her close and hug her for 15 seconds.
  • Emotionally: Ask your wife what’s happening in her friendships/relationships outside of your marriage. All it takes is for you to ask. She will do most of the talking, and she’ll feel very emotionally connected to you as she shares.
  • Mentally: Oftentimes, wives simply need a mental break! Serve her by telling her to kick up her feet, and let her know that you have dinner covered.
Each of these connections set the tone for your sexual relationship. If your wife feels fulfilled and secure on each of these levels, there’s no telling what kind of woman you will have on your hands!
Bottom line: Sex is great. But sex is a million times better when you’re connected through several channels. Wives, if you notice your husband is making the effort to connect with you, don’t sit by idly! Let him know that you notice his efforts, and express your deep appreciation by verbally thanking him and returning the gesture. It will encourage him to keep the connections going! Husbands like your validation more than they let on (but more on that later).
If your marriage has gotten to the point where you hardly connect at all—on any level—now is the time to focus on connecting on one level. Remember: There’s no need to overwhelm yourself. It’s important to take life one day at a time. Shoot for the moon and you’ll land among the stars.  Therefore, connecting with your spouse on more than one level will ignite your sexual relationship.
Do you agree that the sex is better when you’re connected in more ways than one? 

Monday, 21 October 2013

Watermelon and Your Libido

A sweet libido-booster, although it’s 92 percent water, that remaining 8 percent of the content of the fruit is concentrated with vital nutrients for sexual health. Beneficial ingredients in watermelon and other fruits and vegetables are known as phytonutrients, naturally occurring compounds that are bioactive, or able to react with the human body to trigger healthy reactions, Patil said.
Watermelon has ingredients that deliver Viagra-like effects to the human body’s blood vessels and has the capability of increasing libido, it contains a phytonutrient called Citrulline, "We have known that watermelon has citrulline," says Bhimu Patil, PHD, director of the Fruit and Vegetable Improvement Center at Texas A&M University, College Station, this the body converts to arginine, an amino acid that boosts nitric oxide levels in the body, which relax blood vessels in the same way a medicine like Viagra does.
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Some experts have called watermelon the new Viagra. Watermelon is low in calories and provides potassium and the phytonutrients lycopene and beta-carotene, in addition to the citrulline. “The citrulline-arginine relationship helps heart health, the immune system and may prove to be very helpful for those who suffer from obesity and type 2 diabetes,” said Patil. “Arginine boosts nitric oxide, which relaxes blood vessels, the same basic effect that Viagra has, to treat erectile dysfunction and maybe even prevent it.”
While there are many psychological and physiological problems that can cause impotence, extra nitric oxide could help those who need increased blood flow, which would also help treat angina, high blood pressure and other cardiovascular problems.
“Watermelon may not be as organ specific as Viagra,” Patil said, “but it’s a great way to relax blood vessels without any drug side-effects.”


Marriage- the real identity

The small details of our lives are what really matter in marriage relationship. It is not the mansion, the cars, properties, the money in the bank, although these things create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot and will never give happiness in themselves, if they could the rich men and women would have had a fantastic marriage. So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy- be more concern to meet your spouse’s need than yourself- for it is all about sacrifice and selflessness- true love.


Thursday, 17 October 2013

One Major Cause of Genital atrophy

Sex keeps your hormones coursing through your body actively, gives your body a chance to relax and recharge and keeps you intimately connected with another human being, giving you a sense of self-worth and confidence that’s hard to match. If you cease being sexual, your genitals begin to atrophy, you begin disconnecting from your spouse physically, which can drive an emotional wedge between you and your spouse and increase your feelings of loneliness. Sexual pleasure falls into the category of “use it or lose it,” just like any physical skill. The good news is that it’s never too late turn turn your sex life around. Even if, as a couple, you have been moving further and further apart, you can reclaim your sexual passion and it can get better over time.

To maximize your sexual potential and take proper care of your body throughout your life with good diet and exercise, reconsider the benefits that consistent and gratifying sexual pleasure can provide. Your sex life can get better as you age if you aren’t holding a limiting belief that artificially stunts your desire.

Wednesday, 9 October 2013

Women Share What Makes Sex Great for Them

Women Share What Makes Sex Great for Them


In today’s article I will want to ask you question. When you have sex with your husband, do you feel like you’re doing him a favor? Has sex become something that’s “for him”?
Many women feel that way. And not just that; they also feel proud of themselves when they do “give him sex”. He should be grateful!
I think this is an understandable attitude, but also a dangerous one that we should fight against.  
I have heard so many comments from women especially some corporate working wives.
My husband doesn’t know how to show me love the way I want it. But he wants sex all the time, never considerate! But because he doesn’t show me love, I just can’t get into it. So we rarely have sex. And then when we do, he isn’t even THANKFUL AND APPRECIATING.
But from researches, it has been verified that enjoying sex starts from the mind-'it is all about the mind. I DO ASK WOMEN IF THEY EVER THINK OR FANTASY ABOUT LOVE MAKING WITH THEIR SPOUSES? Much of sex is attitude for women. When your heads-thought (mind) is in the game, your bodies usually follow. When your mind isn’t in the game, it isn’t very much fun. If you’re resentful of your husband, or you’re having sex just “to get him off of my back”, then it’s unlikely to be a fun experience for you and also for him, yes he may be physical satisfied but emotionally drained, because he is going to know that you are not fully involved. And he’s going to feel betrayed and cheated, not wanted. This is a time bomb, about to explode; it is just a matter of time. God design sex in marriage to be enjoyed by both parties that is why he created the woman from the man. Scientifically it has been proved that women have more nerves and hormones to enjoy sex, if only they can work and appreciate the power of the mind in love making.
if we’re treating sex like it’s a reward, then we’re withholding love from them. And that is extremely hurtful.
I believe that the root of many marriage problems later on is a disconnect when it comes to making love. Making love is not something optional that we add to our marriages when things are good. It is something that we should be doing consistently, regularly, throughout our marriages, because it is part of what keeps our marriages good. And it is so very important for husbands.
If you’re married to a guy who doesn’t want sex, I know that is so humiliating and discouraging, and I have a series of posts or counsel on that, although something is really wrong, I believe that God created both men and women with sex drives. We both should yearn to make love. However, in general, men’s sex drives are more physically urgent. If their bodies don’t get sexual release, their bodies will actually do it for them during the night periodically. And men are much more visually stimulated than women are. They are supposed to be aroused fairly easily, because it gives them an impetus to really pursue women.
But if he’s the one who wants it more, I want to encourage you to think of sex not as something that you do for him, but as something that you do for both of you.
Ø  It will bring you closer together.
Ø   It helps him feel closer to yourself.
Ø  It  helps you feel more positively about him.
Ø   It helps you to sleep better. It helps you feel more invigorated about life.
Ø   It keeps you happier and healthier.
 It may seem difficult to get to the point where you see sex as something beneficial for you, and not just for him. Honestly ask yourself this question, “do I treat sex like I’m doing him a favor?” And if the answer is yes, then examine your heart and start praying that God will help you to see things differently–that this is something that you do for both of you, because it helps you, too!