Saturday, 26 October 2013

Connecting with Your Spouse on More than One Level

It is fascinating to know that the best way wives can be sexually fulfilled is when you  understand that she constantly seek out ways of connecting to you-husband in more than one way. You don’t reap your harvest without sowing the seed. You can’t drive a car without filling it up with gas. You can’t eat a meal without first prepping and cooking the food. What makes you think you can enjoy mutually satisfying sex without first preparing and stimulating your partner?
I never want to lay a blanket of judgment over anyone, but—in general—this message is geared more toward husbands. (Wives, you are not off the hook! In our earlier post we have dealt with post how wives can love their husbands better).
Husbands, the first thing you need to know is that your wife is a highly emotionally being who wants you sexually. She really does! You are fully capable of fulfilling her sexual desires. The thing is that she also wants to connect with you emotionally, mentally and physically, which may seem like a lot of work to you. Each of these connections lay the groundwork for what happens in the bedroom. If your wife feels connected to you on each of these levels, your sexual relationship will become a multi-faceted, more meaningful aspect of your marriage. It will take off like a rocket to the sky.

Simply put: The best sex happens long before the clothes come off. For successful play, you have to work all day! Husbands, each day, make a goal to connect with your wife on every level. Here are some ideas:
  • Spiritually: Wake up and pray together for 10 minutes in the morning.
  • Physically: Before she leaves for work, pull her close and hug her for 15 seconds.
  • Emotionally: Ask your wife what’s happening in her friendships/relationships outside of your marriage. All it takes is for you to ask. She will do most of the talking, and she’ll feel very emotionally connected to you as she shares.
  • Mentally: Oftentimes, wives simply need a mental break! Serve her by telling her to kick up her feet, and let her know that you have dinner covered.
Each of these connections set the tone for your sexual relationship. If your wife feels fulfilled and secure on each of these levels, there’s no telling what kind of woman you will have on your hands!
Bottom line: Sex is great. But sex is a million times better when you’re connected through several channels. Wives, if you notice your husband is making the effort to connect with you, don’t sit by idly! Let him know that you notice his efforts, and express your deep appreciation by verbally thanking him and returning the gesture. It will encourage him to keep the connections going! Husbands like your validation more than they let on (but more on that later).
If your marriage has gotten to the point where you hardly connect at all—on any level—now is the time to focus on connecting on one level. Remember: There’s no need to overwhelm yourself. It’s important to take life one day at a time. Shoot for the moon and you’ll land among the stars.  Therefore, connecting with your spouse on more than one level will ignite your sexual relationship.
Do you agree that the sex is better when you’re connected in more ways than one?