Sunday, 23 November 2014

7 Tips for Lifelong Romance and Intimacy Beyond the Bed

Intimacy is more than a three letter word; it is drawing close to another human being in a way that two meld into one including soul and spirit. This kind of intimacy is not cultivated in bed, but in time spent together enjoying all facets of life. This article presents seven tips on how to establish an everlasting bond with the love of your life and experience greater romance beyond the bed.

Practice Active Listening

The first tip to experiencing lifelong intimacy is to practice active listening. Active listening is engaging your whole being in the process of hearing and understanding the heart of your mate. For some it may mean taking notes in order to remain focused. For others, it will mean repeating back what was said and asking clarifying questions to make sure you received the message your lover wanted to convey. Experiencing romance beyond the bed starts with active listening.

Go on Date Nights

The second tip for experiencing lifelong intimacy is establishing a regular date night. Once a week or every other week, set time aside to get away for time to catch up. The blazing and dazzling of everyday life can be deafening and drain energy for connecting. Just taking special time to share a nice meal and talk together over coffee can make help extend the romance beyond the bed.

Take Periodic Vacations

Intimacy is established through emotional connections; so a third tip to experiencing romance beyond the bed is to take extended trips together. The duration of each trip is not as important as being together and getting lost in the excursion together. Find out what his or her ultimate one day, three day, and two week vacations are and make reservations to go there or do that. Don't be afraid or too macho to pour yourself into whatever is involved in such an excursion. Exotic foods, scary rides, unexpected surprises all help to form those intimate bonds that extend the romance beyond the bed.

Do the Hard Things with Them

Life is filled with many disappointments and frightening moments; therefore the fourth tip to greater intimacy is to do the hard things with your mate. Go to the hospital; go with them when they need to receive or share bad news; clean the house when they are down with the flu; take time off for back to school nights, parent teacher association meetings(PTA), or when moving a child to college. If you want to experience romance beyond the bed, do the hard things with the love of your life.

Pray with Them

The fifth tip for lifelong intimacy is to pray with your spouse or mate as much as possible. There is no greater activity to establish a deep connection with another person than to form a spiritual bond. Spiritual bonds go to the very core of a person's being. Praying together about all the cares of life will ignite a fire that kindles until death do you part, if you want to experience romance beyond the bed, spend time praying with your lover.

Take Walks Together

Taking slow walks together is another tip for cultivating lifelong intimacy. Taking slow walks together gives another opportunity to share time together and talk and grow closer together.

Hold Hands with Each Other

Holding hands together while walking together or sitting on the couch watching television is a seventh tip for establishing lifelong intimacy. Somehow holding hands together creates an extra sense of interdependence and the desire to be one together. It also seems to melt away any fear or apprehension that allows each person to be more transparent and vulnerable with their lover.

Thursday, 7 August 2014


Sex is an important bonding component in marriage. So even if you feel somewhat separated from your spouse, sex can often be the experience that restores your bond, it  allow  both of you to feel closer, get affection and stimulate a sense of intimacy.
The world today offers conflict, pressure, disappointment, rejection, bitterness, performance evaluation of different source in marriage. Sexuality in marriage can be the antidote. To know and be known – physically, emotionally, and spiritually – I call it the healing balm in marriage, it performs one of the most healing aspects of a healthy marriage.
 For most men who are the introvert in relationships, sex can help them open up a little.
From a biological point of view, sex has a very positive effect on brain chemistry that can make an important contribution to the on-going health of your marriage. Sex primes the pump for intimacy and healing in marriage.

Marriages that don’t maintain their sexual vitality are very much at risk. Plan together to protect and promote your sex life (
 The more you think about sex, the more you will want it, so be sure to take time to think
about it. Read romance novels, listen to music, and watch movies.
It would be short sighted for couples to get married and talk about "till death do us part" if they didn't consider what they were going to do to keep their sex life interesting. Yet, that is what happens to most couples who wed.
Couples talk about their new place settings, TVs, and bedrooms sets etc, but are naive about the issues that will have a huge impact on their ability to keep their marriage healthy.
Married sex has the capacity to be the best sex, but only if the couple values its importance. Do value yours today

Tuesday, 22 April 2014

Happy birthday my Sweetheart and Sexual Energy

Happy birthday dearest, you have been a wonder to me and the lovely kids God bless us with. You have been my true source of my 'sexual energy' - a true companion you are, my love for you is committed and lasting, will not remove from the alter of my heart. Will keep loving you dearest, for true peace and sacrifice I do find in you.

Thursday, 6 February 2014

7 Questions To Answer About Satisfying Your Husband in Bed.

Lovemaking is an important part of romantic relationships.  It unites two people who love one another and allows them to communicate their love. However, there are some things to consider in your sexual relationship.  Do you wonder if you are satisfying your man in bed?  Have you noticed a decline in his interest in the bedroom?  Here are seven questions you can ask that may provide some insight:

1. How do you react when your man makes those midnight moves on you to initiate sex?

2. How many times in a month do you initiate sex with your mate?

3. When you want to make love, do you let your man do all the work?  Men appreciate you telling them what you need and, in turn, appreciate you listening to them.

4. Do you kiss your man while you make love? Men enjoy kissing while making love.

5. When was the last time you went to bed with your man while wearing lingerie?  A little thing like sleepwear can spice up lovemaking.

6. When was the last time you told your man that you love him while making love to him? Talk about an ego booster!

7. When was the last time you cuddled with your man on the couch and then made love afterward?

When you answer these questions truthfully, you may discover things you could be doing to improve both your and his satisfaction in bed.  Remember that: 1) lovemaking is just another opportunity to communicate with the man you love; 2) a man never likes to feel rejected by the woman he loves, so remember that the next time he initiates sex; and 3) maybe next time, beat him to it!


Tuesday, 7 January 2014


And I know for a fact men generally want sex more, which could really affect a relationship. But when I realized that our entire motives for love and sex could be that different, I felt really enlightened.

And so this phrase was born – men need to have sex to feel loved, women need to feel loved to have sex. Use it as you wish (and you’re welcome). Of course it’s not a revolutionary thought. Other sexologists have considered this evidence as well. After rummaging through a couple of books I found that backing this theory with evidence is simpler than I would have imagined. There are many reasons why women want love before sex and men want sex before love. For a start, you guys tend to see sex as more of a necessity and women see it as a nice bonus extra. Women want to talk and connect first – but for men sex is the main way to connect. It’s the language you guys use to express how you feel, and it’s also how you like to receive love from your partner.

Hormones have a lot to answer for as well. Women get a huge rush of oxytocin, which is known as the “cuddle hormone”, from sex, so they go looking for anything that bonds them with their partner. On the other hand, men produce 20 times as much testosterone as women do, which gives you constant pressure to have a sexual release. Sex offers you exactly that release, and you experience a rush of dopamine (AKA the “pleasure hormone”), which makes you feel relaxed and ready to love.

Wednesday, 1 January 2014

Happy New Year

I want to use this opportunity to wish all my readers and contributors to this wonderful family blog-happy new year, to everyone of us i will say this year 2014 is a year of supernatural upgrade in all we do and especially in our family lives. Our sexual life with our spouses will take a new turn, we shall get more insight and creativity as we relate with our spouses. Our marriage bed shall not be defiled, sincerity and oneness of purpose we all shall experience in this brand new year.
We shall persever to see our marriage turning from good to better and to best. I sincerely want to appreciate you all for taking time to visit this blog. As this year progresses, we shall be be paying more attention on these four basic principles:

1. That both Husband and wife have sexual needs and drives that should be fulfilled in marriage
2. That as spouses, marriage has made us forfeit control of our body to our partners.
3. That spouses are forbidden to refuse each other as per their sexual needs.
4. That Sexuality in marriage is approved by God and should be upheld.

I sincerely wish everyone of us HAPPY AND PROSPEROUS NEW YEAR....