Let's
face it, keeping your relationship strong and dynamic is a huge challenge.
The biggest problem most couples face
in the ever fast moving world is simply not creating time to be creative in their
relationship and spend time every week finding new ways to surprise and be
romantic to their partners.
After going to work, taking the kids
to and from school, sports and other activities, cooking, cleaning and other
daily tasks, there seems like little time to BREATHE!… let alone be romantic
with your partner, this was the complain of a female colleague.
And
that's where my collection comes in…
First of all: Realize that relationships take work, lots of
it. Here are things you need to start doing right away to have the relationship
of your dreams.
1. Deeply understand your partner
With the present economic challenge
that most couples face, it has become a bit difficult for couples to find time
for each other. This was the challenge I personally face mid last year, I have
so much going on in my new assignment in my corporate world and also setting up
businesses in some Africa countries, that it became so difficult to spend time
with my beautiful wife.
But one of the things that helped
us swim out of this turbulent part was the ability of myself and Helen to
understand our vision as married couple- and to always talk about everything
and anything.
It is important to always open up the line of communication;
this helps couples to understand their partner line of thought and fantasy.
Never be afraid to ask your partner questions that troubles your mind, but it
must be done with wisdom- understanding the best communication time.
2. Show your love in a UNIQUE way often
When was the last time you said "I love you?" Not
just the words… but when did you really put some time and energy into it? Never
underestimate how much a thoughtful "I love you" can turn around a
relationship. Medical doctors and Psychologists have come to understand that
words spoken with care and deep affection have a healing effect. So learn to
say sweet and affectionate words to your spouse.
These I am committed to Do and What about you? Simple ideas:
1. Send them a unique gift at work. Get a piece of paper and some crayons. Draw a bright
childlike picture with a smiley sun and two stick figures holding hands. Add
labels with your two names pointing to the stick figures. Write ‘I Love You’
inside a heart. Next get a large formal envelope. Place your drawing inside and
type up a formal address label of your partner's workplace, such as: “For the
immediate and urgent attention of: Helen Obi 1431 Heritage Road, Victoria
Island, Lagos.” Mail it to your partner so they receive it in the middle of a
busy day.
2. Bring back childhood memories. Contact your partner's family and ask if there was anything
she always wanted when she was a little girl. For example if she always wanted a
porcelain doll, buy one for her birthday. She will not only appreciate the
gift, but also the fact that you were thoughtful enough to find out what she
always wanted. You can do this for your man too.
3. Create unique bedroom activities: I just recently started learning
some massage tips, to be a fantastic spouse I have to be creative and bring in
new sparks in my bedroom. So I have decided to be her masseur. All you need do is to buy a small, decorated cardboard
box, a sheet of colored tissue paper, some massage oil and a blank card. Line
the box with the tissue paper. Place the massage oil in the box and write the
following message on the card: I know a great masseur. For an appointment call:
(Your Phone Number)
4. Unique flower idea. Leave
a long-stem rose where your partner will find it, with a note on it saying:
"Thank you for coming into my life." Or “Without you my world is
empty” etc.
3. Go on dates-Never stop this act
Is dating only for new relationships? NO!
While being with someone for a long time makes it easy to
slip into a stable and comfortable routine, the problem is you often lose that
spark that made your relationship so special in the first place.
Never stop dating! Have a water fight, stare at the clouds
on a grassy hill, organize a backyard picnic or go to a cinema. Dedicate time
each week or month to doing fun things with your partner.
4. Spark and fuel intimacy
Probably the most profound way to rekindle the romance in
your marriage is to spice up your lovemaking.
Surprise your partner with a little gift after you make
love, try a new position, learn to give your partner a sensual massage before
or after, or just spend some time staring into each other’s eyes and caressing
their bare skin before making love. Many people underestimate the
affect
passionate and intimate lovemaking has on a relationship.
